Family and Friends' Reflections
Irene was so strong. Each time another obstacle came before her, Irene took it 'by the horns' to tackle the next episode in her life. She went through many episodes, Chemo, radiotherapy, medication and more, always optimistic that there would be a light at the end of the tunnel AND she was never going to give up. She always kept up with all the medication and asked many questions to make sure she understood what the doctors were doing and what they were making her swallow!
She was always thinking ahead, that - There must be something that could be given to her to get over the current 'blip'. She would talk openly about the problem and was able to express her aches and pains and always ready to try more medication which so often had side effects. She went through many episodes and came out the other end to enjoy 'normality'. On these days, weeks, sometimes months of good times she lived for every day. Going shopping was such an enjoyable pastime, looking for clothes as so often her weight would fluctuate.
With a giggle and a smile she would find clothes to fit and I must say she always looked so beautiful, even when she had to wear a wig she kept herself immaculate, always looking smart, a feint touch of makeup, not overdoing it but always looking her best.
During her 'good' days she occupied her time, keeping dates with her friends and making a list of 'things to do' with her daughter and husband. Days out, theatre visits, short holidays, catching up with family and friends. These 'good' days and months gave her the opportunity to build up her strength in case she was about to have more 'bad' episodes...
She definitely lived life to the full and put to the back of her mind the inevitable which she took on as another challenge. God bless Irene, she will always be there as a shining example to all of us.
by E. M., Billericay, Essex, England
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Irene was an inspirational character in more ways than one. When I first knew her, it was as a gifted communicator with young children. She loved them and they loved her; they just connected. In later years, when she was fighting the cancer, whenever we met and I asked how she was doing, Irene wasn’t interested in discussing herself, always asking after me and my family, with real interest and a lovely smile!
Each one of her setbacks was treated as just another problem to be overcome with neither a hint of negativity, nor any trace of self-pity. I’m sure this attitude was part of how she managed to fight on for so long. Irene was a woman of quiet dignity and courage, a real inspiration.
by B. Maskell, Billericay, Essex, England
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John,
I'm so very sorry it's taken me so long to read Irene's website and respond to you....
I've just read through all the pages, wow - what an inspiration this will be to those who need support through their own cancer journeys. I hope that creating this site, gave you and Elise some comfort. Irene would be very proud of you both; doing as she always did and thinking of others before yourself.
If its not too late, can you please add my note below to the appropriate section on the website ?
"I worked with Irene in Travelex in Billericay from 2004-2006. I had an 85 mile journey to the office each day, and Irene was always quick to make me that early morning cuppa on arrival. We worked well together, and Irene quickly became "Auntie Renee" always looking out for others and providing wise counsel on the non-work stresses and strains experienced in the team. Whilst working with Irene, I lost my brother to cancer, and many a lunch break we spent trying to rationalise this horrible disease. With a smile and giggle that could transform a room, a robust sense of humour and a tenacity to resolve problems that was legendary with our 3rd party suppliers; Irene was a valued friend and colleague At the end of the working day, John was always waiting outside in the car park with a smile and a wave for the rest of the team before driving Irene home. Irene, John and Elise will always be in my thoughts and prayers"
best regards
by F. Hill, Elvetham Heath, Fleet, Hampshire, England
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Irene was a special sort of person that perhaps does not come along in everyone’s lifetime, so I was very fortunate to have the privilege and pleasure of being her cousin. I have known Irene all my life and she has always been someone who loved life and the people in her life. Irene was someone who you could confide in and would always listen.
When she was diagnosed with cancer 12 years ago she took in her stride and as though it were a bad cold, she would take the medicine and get over it. Irene took all the medicine that was given her, even medication she had a bad reaction too, but it never ever deterred her. Irene would just pick herself up, dust herself off and start all over again. This happened time and time again because she was so ill. But Irene would never give in and she fought back saying she was going to beat the cancer, her sheer willpower and determination kept her going for all those years and her courage was inspirational.
She was a star, my star - now that star shines in the sky a monument to all those out there fighting this illness as a beacon telling everyone not to give up and fight. - God bless my dear star and God bless all those reading this who are fighting.
by P. Owen, Sutton, Surrey, England
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Irene was my 'Fairy' Godmother; someone who inspired me from a very young age. Irene fought her battle with bowel cancer with everything she had, but still had time for all of her family and friends. Irene embraced the times when she was well and lived live to the full, and when she wasn't she showed a strength and determination that saw her through the not so good times. Irene always thought of and cared about so many people, one of her last text messages to me (when she was in hospital for what was to be the last time) was worrying if Daisy (my daughter) needed anything for her new room at college. Typical Irene, worrying about everyone else when she was so poorly herself.
Funny, caring, stubborn, determined, stylish, fun loving....my 'Fairy' Godmother waved her magic wand over mine and so many other people's lives.
by S. Reid, Elm Park, Essex, England.
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I have known Irene for a long time. I was very sad when I heard that she had cancer. I know that she had to undergo many treatments, especially chemotherapy, and I know that she always was very brave. Although these treatments were very strenuous, she always seemed to be very strong and under control. She never ever gave up. I was really hoping she could beat cancer because of her wonderful personality.
I was shocked to hear the sad news that she had passed away.
It is nice that she will still be able to give hope and will to other people through her website so that they too can fight their cancer.
by Dr U.L. Mainz, Germany
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I have known Irene for over 20 years both as a good friend and a work colleague. I worked with her at Pre-school . She loved working with the children and was very popular with all the children and staff. When she was diagnosed with cancer we were all devastated for her.
I watched her fight against it for 11 years and during that time she never showed any bitterness or asked “Why me ?” She remained her usual happy, fun loving self. Every time I saw her she always had a smile on her face and was ready for a laugh or a joke.
She would text us all regularly after she had seen the “Prof” to keep us up to date with her progress and even if it was not particularly good news, she always put a positive spin on it.
I was one of a group of seven of her friends who always celebrated our birthdays by having a meal together. During all the time she was ill and undergoing treatment she would always turn up, even if it was only to have a drink as she was not well enough to eat and to bring along her present. She always found the energy to dress smartly. I remember one time she was wearing her wig and looked a knock-out and I told her she looked the youngest of the lot of us – and she did! She only ever missed one occasion as she was not well enough – it was my birthday but the following week, when she felt better, she invited us all down to her house for the evening. Then, despite having had treatment that day, she brought out a surprise birthday cake for me and gave me a present. I was so touched and will never forget that birthday.
We still celebrate our birthdays together, but it is not the same without Irene. We all drink a toast to her and remember all the great laughs we had together.
She fought so hard, was an inspiration to us all and was one of the kindest people I have ever known.
Lots of love and many happy memories.
by A. Mullen, Billericay, Essex, England
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Remembering our friend Irene is easy. We all became friends at the age of 15 when we first started work in the city of London fifty years ago. The 60's were a wonderful time for us all, partying, clubbing and pubbing after work and most weekends, when we were all at the Ilford Palais. Irene was always the one that became "mum" and looked after anyone who was hungover, sick or otherwise, and always the most caring, for which we were always grateful.
We were all so shocked when Irene was diagnosed with cancer, which she had for 12 years. She coped so well and took everything in her stride only for the cancer to return later on. Irene is one of the bravest people we know, very optimistic and never seemed to be afraid of what she had, always strong and looking forward, knowing she had he best treatment thanks to John. Where ever you are Irene we will always thank you for being our friend and being there for all of us over the years.
Our love forever.
Marian, Gina and Barry, Dagenham, Essex, England
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On a recent trip to England, I took my 8 year old grandson with me for the first time. During that trip, Irene and Elise walked with me and my grandson Braedan, from Frinton (along the seafront) to Walton-On-The-Naze, a tidy hike to say the least. Although Irene’s illness was well known, her determination to complete that hike was absolutely astounding and without so much as one complaint. I will never forget that day.
Irene was an inspiration to everyone. Her positive outlook on life, despite the many difficulties she endured during her illness, was unbelievable. She was never one to allow her illness to define who she was. Irene never focused on herself, no matter how she was feeling and always had encouraging words for others.
Since her passing, Irene continues to receive many accolades from not just her family but also friends and acquaintances. What a true testament this is to how much she was admired and loved. Wouldn’t Irene be happy to know the positive influence she had on all the lives she touched. What more could anyone possibly ask for in this life.
by C and T Abbott, Tecumseh, Ontario, Canada
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Irene and family had visited Canada during the course of her illness, both to visit me in Ontario and our, since deceased, Uncle Ron in BC. At all times, Irene showed a zest for life and a compassionate interest in others (who may well have been in a more fortunate circumstance she was). Irene inherited from her Mum and Dad an innate wisdom about life that still resonates with me when I recall some of our quiet conversations.
Irene fought back against her illness and did not allow it to impose on her quest for the best quality of life she could achieve. In sickness and health this is not a bad strategy for all of us. Irene set an inspirational example to all of us in addressing life’s challenges. We all have a one way ticket. It’s the ride that counts and the people you meet on the way that matters!
by D and R Abbott, Dundas, Ontario, Canada
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I first met Irene when we worked together at Playgroup. Irene was always a cheerful happy person to work with, brightening everyone's day. She fought her illness bravely never complaining. I will always remember Irene as a very happy, positive, inspirational lady.
by A. Dragoni, Billericay, Essex, England
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I watched Irene’s bravery and kindness despite her steady decline over the many years she lived with her illness. She was a determined lady for herself and for her family that she would make the most of every day she had left. She filled her time with the people and places that she loved as well as made time for others. Family and friends were her reasons for her stoic fight with cancer, and as part of her extended family, she always made time for me and my daughters.
Irene loved children as shown by her immense love for her own and she loved watching mine make their way in the world. I always felt entirely comfortable in Irene’s company no matter what turmoil she was suffering. She was a loveable character who loved children and treated them as their own. Above all, Irene was exceptional company at all times which will forever bring a smile to my face when I remember her. This is the imprint she has left on me.
by S. Abbott, Rettendon, Essex, England
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I had the pleasure of getting to know Irene Yarrow through my late husband’s long term friendship with her devoted husband John. From the first time of her diagnosis she was very positive and strong as if this was just a blip in life’s journey. As time went on, unfortunately, the blip wasn’t easy to get rid of, despite there being good times when she was in remission and she shone like a star.
Irene never complained or let you know she was suffering. On such a day we met and went shopping in Basildon and had a great day. When the last breath was taken by Irene, and John rang me with the devastating news of her passing, I couldn’t believe it, obviously God has a plan for Irene to take her from us so early and leave the ones who loved her. Irene was so inspirational; I hope her courage will help others in similar circumstances in the future. GOD BLESS IRENE
by S. Attree, Gidea Park, Essex, England
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Thank you so much for giving us details of the special and powerful website
that you have created in memory of your adored and extremely brave Irene. It
is a wonderful living tribute to an inspirational person and I am sad that
we did not live near enough to become part of her coterie of loving friends,
who so admired her fun personality, her resolve and her concern for the
wellbeing of others.
The website will certainly give heart to any reading it and will be Irene's
way of continuing to reach out and sustain receivers who are still battling
and needing comfort on this earth. It is so fitting that a plaque to her
memory and achievement has been erected in the Nuffield hospital.
I feel that much gratitude must also go to Irene's family, for they provided
the love and support to help Irene through her long illness. When couples
have such deep affection for each other, mountains can be moved ... Not
always to the hoped for conclusion, but as a building block to a much
greater glory.
by S and R. Meadows, Charlton Kilmersdon, Bath, England
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I had the privilege to meet Irene when my sons, Daniel and Leonard, joined the playgroup at Canon Roche. I had been blessed with her friendship until her final departure. During this time, I had always marvelled at the support and kindness she bestowed on her family and friends. Irene’s battle with cancer did not affect her character. On the contrary, it strengthened her positivity, her fighting spirit, and her determination to live her life to the full.
Irene enjoyed immensely having family and friends around her, not only at the lovely celebrations we were privileged to be part of, but at the coffees and chats that she always welcomed. Even at her funeral, she had managed to bring together all family and friends to share some amazing memories.
by I. Rust, Billericay, Essex, England
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Irene and I are of similar age and as we grew up I never realised the strength of personality she would possess.
Whilst she had to fight her own battle she always thought of, and gave encouragement to, others.It was always a pleasure to be in Irene’s company.
She was positive and resolute in her outlook on life and a true inspiration to others.
by J and M Bridgeman, Market Lavington, Wiltshire, England.
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Irene has always been a great inspiration and friend to me. I have admired the way she fought her cancer and took the time to look so beautiful and smart during her illness. She never complained once and always took the time to ask after others how they were feeling. She will always be in our thoughts and prays.
by K. Casey, Billericay, Essex, England
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I first met Irene 25 years ago. She soon became a very genuine and sincere friend. That was Irene, honest and above all loyal. Unfortunately she feel ill to cancer but against all odds she fought it and Irene was back working again. She was always positive and very determined to beat it, what a fantastic inspirational person she was. Unfortunately it returned but still she had that same attitude and she fought and fought with every breath. We had some good evenings out enjoying a meal and a glass of wine catching up about how our girls were getting on and chatting about life in general. That was Irene, a normal everyday person, I will always miss her.
by C. Nightingale, Billericay, Essex, England
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I would just like to show my deep admiration for the dignified way in which Irene dealt with her cancer over many years, even when she was in terrible discomfort with all the treatment that she had, I never saw her too unhappy, always optimistic about her future, she was so positive and determined to live and enjoy her life for as long as possible. All this would not have been possible without the love and support you and your daughter gave Irene over many years.
Irene, Jan and I had many lunches together and always enjoyed good food and good company, thank you Irene so much for your friendship.
by B. Jones, Billericay, Essex, England
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I worked with Irene and we hit it off as friends straight away it was a real shock when Irene was diagnosed with cancer, but she fought it so bravely, she never lost her sense of humor throughout her eleven year fight. She was an inspiration to other people and it was a privilege to be her friend, I will always remember Irene with great affection.
by B. Whitehead, Laindon, Essex, England
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Irene was my very good friend from school days. She was always the brightest. We shared so many good times together, dancing, theatre, cinema and more. Whenever life got tough, Irene was always supportive.
All through Irene's illness in these latter years, she has shown nothing but courage and determination to retain her sense of humour and still caring for others problems.
She was my good friend and hero, mentor and guide. I loved her dearly. Rest in peace, no more pain. You will always have a place in my heart.
by B. Laws, Thorpe Bay, Southend, Essex, England
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Cancer is a horrible disease. It is silent, invasive and formidable. It takes a brave person to face the diagnosis and treatment offered by the specialists. Irene was a very special person, she was resilient and bore all the indignities with fortitude for eleven years. Many of us could not have endured what Irene had to for so long. She was a shining example of what the human spirit is capable of. She was a valued friend and I will miss her.
by S. Adlum, Billericay, Essex, England
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Irene, my much loved cousin, symbolised the epitome of positive thinking throughout her many years of illness. The aura that Irene projected not only prolonged her own life beyond normal medical prognosis for her condition, but helped those family and friends around her to cope with witnessing Irene’s effects of cancer.
Ignoring her own problems at times Irene was always willing to support her friends, of whom she had many, with advice and support.
A truly inspirational person.
by L. Bateman, Sittingbourne, Kent, England
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Irene - so brave, so courageous, for so long.
by M. Moulds, Gidea Park, Essex, England
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Sometimes in life, you find a special friend, someone who changes your life just being part of it and Irene was that to me. Through the good and bad times she was always able to smile. I miss her, but will always remember the happy times we had together.
by M. Lew, Billericay, Essex, England
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I met my wife Irene in 1972 and married her in 1975. Irene was a very talented young lady and very good at her job, as well as being very feisty and determined to get on in the business world. She worked at that time in the London Stock exchange working on the dealers floor. She was presented to HM the Queen on her visit to the stock exchange in the mid 70's, because she was one of only two women allowed on the stock exchange floor at that time. Irene had a very high powered job with high remuneration commensurate with her position.
Irene was very concise and quiet in nature, I was the flamboyant one, but she always knew what she wanted. She was inspirational then, but I did not realise how much so it was to become in later life. She was the boss in our marriage, which I quite liked. Irene was an amazing wife, friend and confidant; any problems I had she would always help and usually sort them out for me. For 40 years I knew and loved her, she definitely was special to me and all her friends and family and anyone she met. I have practiced martial arts for 30 years, with 8 years of that being at Westwood karate academy in Hockley and you need a special kind of determination and character to continue for that amount of time. She had all of this and more, her determined mindset and toughness beat me hands down on all counts.
Quoting from a book this sums her up nicely "THE LADY WHO WAS BEAUTIFUL INSIDE", and pretty on the outside as well. The Nuffield Hospital in Brentwood, Essex have put up a plaque in honour of her inspirational attitude to her cancer fight for 12 years, which is unprecedented today. Irene never complained once about any illnesses she had in her life time - "Hay ho" she used to say " I 'll get over it" was her positive attitude to life. As testimony to how popular she was, at her funeral she raised more than £620 for the Helen Rollason Cancer Charity.
by J. L. Yarrow, Billericay, Essex, England
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I met Irene when she came to work at Mackays Stores in Billericay. We seemed to get on together right from the start. We had the same sense of humour and were always giggling over something. We had the nickname of 'the naughty nippers' from a babywear story that we sold at the time. Irene and I have spent many an evening out for Dinner with either the girls at work or just us and another friend, Beryl. I wasn't very happy, when Irene told me she was leaving, but we still kept in touch. I either saw her at home when she was particularly unwell, and when she was well enough, we went out for lunch.
When Irene first found out that she had cancer and was in hospital, I went to see her there and at home, when she was recovering. My husband, George and I went to the Isle of Wight for a long weekend. I mentioned to George, that I should have rung Irene to wish her well, as she was having her first session of chemotherapy. She did not take to this well and could not have anymore. I went to see Irene at home and when she was in hospital, she was always happy and we still had a laugh.
She had her 60th birthday at the Canon Roche hall and I went by myself as George was away but had a great time with everyone and danced most of the night with her. She then came to mine, 18months later, and we all had a great time there.
Irene was one of my best friends and we would talk for ages. She bore her fight so well and said many a time that this was not going to beat her. She was a fighter and I admired her courage and determination. I still miss her, her laugh and her lovely smile. I will never forget her and I wish there were more selfless people like her in the world. God bless, my friend.
by J. Amos, Laindon, Essex, England
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Cancer can often be a journey of awakening and self realization. An apparent predator called ‘cancer’ wants to take force and possession of physicality – One initially responds, reacts with sheer anger and terror; subjected by and to the frightening ‘C’ word…… The journey begins…..
Family reactions and their terror is often the most difficult to deal with; nobody really wants to understand or deal with the possibility of death!! Doctors and nurses are very kind; they are our hope, our solution our dependency upon living.
Irene always believed that there was ALWAYS a positive in EVERY negative – How can there ever be a positive when a human is dancing with death? ….the awakening journey begins; life now takes on a completely different meaning. Things that we were once worried about cease to exist! Life is now being threatened in its most detrimental force – something needs to balance out this force. Spiritual hope comes into place; this spiritual hope brings with it ‘the journey of reality’ i.e. possessions cease to matter; they no longer hold the power of gravity that give a sense of life. Instead now it is the things that can no longer be touched or seen with the naked eye that truly matter; they are seen and touched with the human heart.. The evening sunset, the due on the rose, the kind smile from a passer by, the look of love in the eyes of close family members; all of these things Irene noticed more so in her final years, showing how meanings of what really matter change.
The journey of cancer is a journey of self courage; a journey of inner determination, which Irene saw through to her final breath. After all we ALL die in the end. The journey of cancer helps to enlighten the soul, the spirit dances whilst the heart opens to its real intention, its realization of ‘why are we here’ – why where we born? The answer I believe is just to love and to be loved in its simplest and purest form…
by D.F. London, England
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In Loving memory of Irene Carol Yarrow, a truly inspirational patient
19th Feb 1947 - 9th March 2012
She was always thinking ahead, that - There must be something that could be given to her to get over the current 'blip'. She would talk openly about the problem and was able to express her aches and pains and always ready to try more medication which so often had side effects. She went through many episodes and came out the other end to enjoy 'normality'. On these days, weeks, sometimes months of good times she lived for every day. Going shopping was such an enjoyable pastime, looking for clothes as so often her weight would fluctuate.
With a giggle and a smile she would find clothes to fit and I must say she always looked so beautiful, even when she had to wear a wig she kept herself immaculate, always looking smart, a feint touch of makeup, not overdoing it but always looking her best.
During her 'good' days she occupied her time, keeping dates with her friends and making a list of 'things to do' with her daughter and husband. Days out, theatre visits, short holidays, catching up with family and friends. These 'good' days and months gave her the opportunity to build up her strength in case she was about to have more 'bad' episodes...
She definitely lived life to the full and put to the back of her mind the inevitable which she took on as another challenge. God bless Irene, she will always be there as a shining example to all of us.
by E. M., Billericay, Essex, England
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Irene was an inspirational character in more ways than one. When I first knew her, it was as a gifted communicator with young children. She loved them and they loved her; they just connected. In later years, when she was fighting the cancer, whenever we met and I asked how she was doing, Irene wasn’t interested in discussing herself, always asking after me and my family, with real interest and a lovely smile!
Each one of her setbacks was treated as just another problem to be overcome with neither a hint of negativity, nor any trace of self-pity. I’m sure this attitude was part of how she managed to fight on for so long. Irene was a woman of quiet dignity and courage, a real inspiration.
by B. Maskell, Billericay, Essex, England
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John,
I'm so very sorry it's taken me so long to read Irene's website and respond to you....
I've just read through all the pages, wow - what an inspiration this will be to those who need support through their own cancer journeys. I hope that creating this site, gave you and Elise some comfort. Irene would be very proud of you both; doing as she always did and thinking of others before yourself.
If its not too late, can you please add my note below to the appropriate section on the website ?
"I worked with Irene in Travelex in Billericay from 2004-2006. I had an 85 mile journey to the office each day, and Irene was always quick to make me that early morning cuppa on arrival. We worked well together, and Irene quickly became "Auntie Renee" always looking out for others and providing wise counsel on the non-work stresses and strains experienced in the team. Whilst working with Irene, I lost my brother to cancer, and many a lunch break we spent trying to rationalise this horrible disease. With a smile and giggle that could transform a room, a robust sense of humour and a tenacity to resolve problems that was legendary with our 3rd party suppliers; Irene was a valued friend and colleague At the end of the working day, John was always waiting outside in the car park with a smile and a wave for the rest of the team before driving Irene home. Irene, John and Elise will always be in my thoughts and prayers"
best regards
by F. Hill, Elvetham Heath, Fleet, Hampshire, England
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Irene was a special sort of person that perhaps does not come along in everyone’s lifetime, so I was very fortunate to have the privilege and pleasure of being her cousin. I have known Irene all my life and she has always been someone who loved life and the people in her life. Irene was someone who you could confide in and would always listen.
When she was diagnosed with cancer 12 years ago she took in her stride and as though it were a bad cold, she would take the medicine and get over it. Irene took all the medicine that was given her, even medication she had a bad reaction too, but it never ever deterred her. Irene would just pick herself up, dust herself off and start all over again. This happened time and time again because she was so ill. But Irene would never give in and she fought back saying she was going to beat the cancer, her sheer willpower and determination kept her going for all those years and her courage was inspirational.
She was a star, my star - now that star shines in the sky a monument to all those out there fighting this illness as a beacon telling everyone not to give up and fight. - God bless my dear star and God bless all those reading this who are fighting.
by P. Owen, Sutton, Surrey, England
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Irene was my 'Fairy' Godmother; someone who inspired me from a very young age. Irene fought her battle with bowel cancer with everything she had, but still had time for all of her family and friends. Irene embraced the times when she was well and lived live to the full, and when she wasn't she showed a strength and determination that saw her through the not so good times. Irene always thought of and cared about so many people, one of her last text messages to me (when she was in hospital for what was to be the last time) was worrying if Daisy (my daughter) needed anything for her new room at college. Typical Irene, worrying about everyone else when she was so poorly herself.
Funny, caring, stubborn, determined, stylish, fun loving....my 'Fairy' Godmother waved her magic wand over mine and so many other people's lives.
by S. Reid, Elm Park, Essex, England.
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I have known Irene for a long time. I was very sad when I heard that she had cancer. I know that she had to undergo many treatments, especially chemotherapy, and I know that she always was very brave. Although these treatments were very strenuous, she always seemed to be very strong and under control. She never ever gave up. I was really hoping she could beat cancer because of her wonderful personality.
I was shocked to hear the sad news that she had passed away.
It is nice that she will still be able to give hope and will to other people through her website so that they too can fight their cancer.
by Dr U.L. Mainz, Germany
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I have known Irene for over 20 years both as a good friend and a work colleague. I worked with her at Pre-school . She loved working with the children and was very popular with all the children and staff. When she was diagnosed with cancer we were all devastated for her.
I watched her fight against it for 11 years and during that time she never showed any bitterness or asked “Why me ?” She remained her usual happy, fun loving self. Every time I saw her she always had a smile on her face and was ready for a laugh or a joke.
She would text us all regularly after she had seen the “Prof” to keep us up to date with her progress and even if it was not particularly good news, she always put a positive spin on it.
I was one of a group of seven of her friends who always celebrated our birthdays by having a meal together. During all the time she was ill and undergoing treatment she would always turn up, even if it was only to have a drink as she was not well enough to eat and to bring along her present. She always found the energy to dress smartly. I remember one time she was wearing her wig and looked a knock-out and I told her she looked the youngest of the lot of us – and she did! She only ever missed one occasion as she was not well enough – it was my birthday but the following week, when she felt better, she invited us all down to her house for the evening. Then, despite having had treatment that day, she brought out a surprise birthday cake for me and gave me a present. I was so touched and will never forget that birthday.
We still celebrate our birthdays together, but it is not the same without Irene. We all drink a toast to her and remember all the great laughs we had together.
She fought so hard, was an inspiration to us all and was one of the kindest people I have ever known.
Lots of love and many happy memories.
by A. Mullen, Billericay, Essex, England
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Remembering our friend Irene is easy. We all became friends at the age of 15 when we first started work in the city of London fifty years ago. The 60's were a wonderful time for us all, partying, clubbing and pubbing after work and most weekends, when we were all at the Ilford Palais. Irene was always the one that became "mum" and looked after anyone who was hungover, sick or otherwise, and always the most caring, for which we were always grateful.
We were all so shocked when Irene was diagnosed with cancer, which she had for 12 years. She coped so well and took everything in her stride only for the cancer to return later on. Irene is one of the bravest people we know, very optimistic and never seemed to be afraid of what she had, always strong and looking forward, knowing she had he best treatment thanks to John. Where ever you are Irene we will always thank you for being our friend and being there for all of us over the years.
Our love forever.
Marian, Gina and Barry, Dagenham, Essex, England
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On a recent trip to England, I took my 8 year old grandson with me for the first time. During that trip, Irene and Elise walked with me and my grandson Braedan, from Frinton (along the seafront) to Walton-On-The-Naze, a tidy hike to say the least. Although Irene’s illness was well known, her determination to complete that hike was absolutely astounding and without so much as one complaint. I will never forget that day.
Irene was an inspiration to everyone. Her positive outlook on life, despite the many difficulties she endured during her illness, was unbelievable. She was never one to allow her illness to define who she was. Irene never focused on herself, no matter how she was feeling and always had encouraging words for others.
Since her passing, Irene continues to receive many accolades from not just her family but also friends and acquaintances. What a true testament this is to how much she was admired and loved. Wouldn’t Irene be happy to know the positive influence she had on all the lives she touched. What more could anyone possibly ask for in this life.
by C and T Abbott, Tecumseh, Ontario, Canada
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Irene and family had visited Canada during the course of her illness, both to visit me in Ontario and our, since deceased, Uncle Ron in BC. At all times, Irene showed a zest for life and a compassionate interest in others (who may well have been in a more fortunate circumstance she was). Irene inherited from her Mum and Dad an innate wisdom about life that still resonates with me when I recall some of our quiet conversations.
Irene fought back against her illness and did not allow it to impose on her quest for the best quality of life she could achieve. In sickness and health this is not a bad strategy for all of us. Irene set an inspirational example to all of us in addressing life’s challenges. We all have a one way ticket. It’s the ride that counts and the people you meet on the way that matters!
by D and R Abbott, Dundas, Ontario, Canada
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I first met Irene when we worked together at Playgroup. Irene was always a cheerful happy person to work with, brightening everyone's day. She fought her illness bravely never complaining. I will always remember Irene as a very happy, positive, inspirational lady.
by A. Dragoni, Billericay, Essex, England
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I watched Irene’s bravery and kindness despite her steady decline over the many years she lived with her illness. She was a determined lady for herself and for her family that she would make the most of every day she had left. She filled her time with the people and places that she loved as well as made time for others. Family and friends were her reasons for her stoic fight with cancer, and as part of her extended family, she always made time for me and my daughters.
Irene loved children as shown by her immense love for her own and she loved watching mine make their way in the world. I always felt entirely comfortable in Irene’s company no matter what turmoil she was suffering. She was a loveable character who loved children and treated them as their own. Above all, Irene was exceptional company at all times which will forever bring a smile to my face when I remember her. This is the imprint she has left on me.
by S. Abbott, Rettendon, Essex, England
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I had the pleasure of getting to know Irene Yarrow through my late husband’s long term friendship with her devoted husband John. From the first time of her diagnosis she was very positive and strong as if this was just a blip in life’s journey. As time went on, unfortunately, the blip wasn’t easy to get rid of, despite there being good times when she was in remission and she shone like a star.
Irene never complained or let you know she was suffering. On such a day we met and went shopping in Basildon and had a great day. When the last breath was taken by Irene, and John rang me with the devastating news of her passing, I couldn’t believe it, obviously God has a plan for Irene to take her from us so early and leave the ones who loved her. Irene was so inspirational; I hope her courage will help others in similar circumstances in the future. GOD BLESS IRENE
by S. Attree, Gidea Park, Essex, England
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Thank you so much for giving us details of the special and powerful website
that you have created in memory of your adored and extremely brave Irene. It
is a wonderful living tribute to an inspirational person and I am sad that
we did not live near enough to become part of her coterie of loving friends,
who so admired her fun personality, her resolve and her concern for the
wellbeing of others.
The website will certainly give heart to any reading it and will be Irene's
way of continuing to reach out and sustain receivers who are still battling
and needing comfort on this earth. It is so fitting that a plaque to her
memory and achievement has been erected in the Nuffield hospital.
I feel that much gratitude must also go to Irene's family, for they provided
the love and support to help Irene through her long illness. When couples
have such deep affection for each other, mountains can be moved ... Not
always to the hoped for conclusion, but as a building block to a much
greater glory.
by S and R. Meadows, Charlton Kilmersdon, Bath, England
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I had the privilege to meet Irene when my sons, Daniel and Leonard, joined the playgroup at Canon Roche. I had been blessed with her friendship until her final departure. During this time, I had always marvelled at the support and kindness she bestowed on her family and friends. Irene’s battle with cancer did not affect her character. On the contrary, it strengthened her positivity, her fighting spirit, and her determination to live her life to the full.
Irene enjoyed immensely having family and friends around her, not only at the lovely celebrations we were privileged to be part of, but at the coffees and chats that she always welcomed. Even at her funeral, she had managed to bring together all family and friends to share some amazing memories.
by I. Rust, Billericay, Essex, England
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Irene and I are of similar age and as we grew up I never realised the strength of personality she would possess.
Whilst she had to fight her own battle she always thought of, and gave encouragement to, others.It was always a pleasure to be in Irene’s company.
She was positive and resolute in her outlook on life and a true inspiration to others.
by J and M Bridgeman, Market Lavington, Wiltshire, England.
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Irene has always been a great inspiration and friend to me. I have admired the way she fought her cancer and took the time to look so beautiful and smart during her illness. She never complained once and always took the time to ask after others how they were feeling. She will always be in our thoughts and prays.
by K. Casey, Billericay, Essex, England
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I first met Irene 25 years ago. She soon became a very genuine and sincere friend. That was Irene, honest and above all loyal. Unfortunately she feel ill to cancer but against all odds she fought it and Irene was back working again. She was always positive and very determined to beat it, what a fantastic inspirational person she was. Unfortunately it returned but still she had that same attitude and she fought and fought with every breath. We had some good evenings out enjoying a meal and a glass of wine catching up about how our girls were getting on and chatting about life in general. That was Irene, a normal everyday person, I will always miss her.
by C. Nightingale, Billericay, Essex, England
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I would just like to show my deep admiration for the dignified way in which Irene dealt with her cancer over many years, even when she was in terrible discomfort with all the treatment that she had, I never saw her too unhappy, always optimistic about her future, she was so positive and determined to live and enjoy her life for as long as possible. All this would not have been possible without the love and support you and your daughter gave Irene over many years.
Irene, Jan and I had many lunches together and always enjoyed good food and good company, thank you Irene so much for your friendship.
by B. Jones, Billericay, Essex, England
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I worked with Irene and we hit it off as friends straight away it was a real shock when Irene was diagnosed with cancer, but she fought it so bravely, she never lost her sense of humor throughout her eleven year fight. She was an inspiration to other people and it was a privilege to be her friend, I will always remember Irene with great affection.
by B. Whitehead, Laindon, Essex, England
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Irene was my very good friend from school days. She was always the brightest. We shared so many good times together, dancing, theatre, cinema and more. Whenever life got tough, Irene was always supportive.
All through Irene's illness in these latter years, she has shown nothing but courage and determination to retain her sense of humour and still caring for others problems.
She was my good friend and hero, mentor and guide. I loved her dearly. Rest in peace, no more pain. You will always have a place in my heart.
by B. Laws, Thorpe Bay, Southend, Essex, England
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Cancer is a horrible disease. It is silent, invasive and formidable. It takes a brave person to face the diagnosis and treatment offered by the specialists. Irene was a very special person, she was resilient and bore all the indignities with fortitude for eleven years. Many of us could not have endured what Irene had to for so long. She was a shining example of what the human spirit is capable of. She was a valued friend and I will miss her.
by S. Adlum, Billericay, Essex, England
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Irene, my much loved cousin, symbolised the epitome of positive thinking throughout her many years of illness. The aura that Irene projected not only prolonged her own life beyond normal medical prognosis for her condition, but helped those family and friends around her to cope with witnessing Irene’s effects of cancer.
Ignoring her own problems at times Irene was always willing to support her friends, of whom she had many, with advice and support.
A truly inspirational person.
by L. Bateman, Sittingbourne, Kent, England
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Irene - so brave, so courageous, for so long.
by M. Moulds, Gidea Park, Essex, England
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Sometimes in life, you find a special friend, someone who changes your life just being part of it and Irene was that to me. Through the good and bad times she was always able to smile. I miss her, but will always remember the happy times we had together.
by M. Lew, Billericay, Essex, England
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I met my wife Irene in 1972 and married her in 1975. Irene was a very talented young lady and very good at her job, as well as being very feisty and determined to get on in the business world. She worked at that time in the London Stock exchange working on the dealers floor. She was presented to HM the Queen on her visit to the stock exchange in the mid 70's, because she was one of only two women allowed on the stock exchange floor at that time. Irene had a very high powered job with high remuneration commensurate with her position.
Irene was very concise and quiet in nature, I was the flamboyant one, but she always knew what she wanted. She was inspirational then, but I did not realise how much so it was to become in later life. She was the boss in our marriage, which I quite liked. Irene was an amazing wife, friend and confidant; any problems I had she would always help and usually sort them out for me. For 40 years I knew and loved her, she definitely was special to me and all her friends and family and anyone she met. I have practiced martial arts for 30 years, with 8 years of that being at Westwood karate academy in Hockley and you need a special kind of determination and character to continue for that amount of time. She had all of this and more, her determined mindset and toughness beat me hands down on all counts.
Quoting from a book this sums her up nicely "THE LADY WHO WAS BEAUTIFUL INSIDE", and pretty on the outside as well. The Nuffield Hospital in Brentwood, Essex have put up a plaque in honour of her inspirational attitude to her cancer fight for 12 years, which is unprecedented today. Irene never complained once about any illnesses she had in her life time - "Hay ho" she used to say " I 'll get over it" was her positive attitude to life. As testimony to how popular she was, at her funeral she raised more than £620 for the Helen Rollason Cancer Charity.
by J. L. Yarrow, Billericay, Essex, England
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I met Irene when she came to work at Mackays Stores in Billericay. We seemed to get on together right from the start. We had the same sense of humour and were always giggling over something. We had the nickname of 'the naughty nippers' from a babywear story that we sold at the time. Irene and I have spent many an evening out for Dinner with either the girls at work or just us and another friend, Beryl. I wasn't very happy, when Irene told me she was leaving, but we still kept in touch. I either saw her at home when she was particularly unwell, and when she was well enough, we went out for lunch.
When Irene first found out that she had cancer and was in hospital, I went to see her there and at home, when she was recovering. My husband, George and I went to the Isle of Wight for a long weekend. I mentioned to George, that I should have rung Irene to wish her well, as she was having her first session of chemotherapy. She did not take to this well and could not have anymore. I went to see Irene at home and when she was in hospital, she was always happy and we still had a laugh.
She had her 60th birthday at the Canon Roche hall and I went by myself as George was away but had a great time with everyone and danced most of the night with her. She then came to mine, 18months later, and we all had a great time there.
Irene was one of my best friends and we would talk for ages. She bore her fight so well and said many a time that this was not going to beat her. She was a fighter and I admired her courage and determination. I still miss her, her laugh and her lovely smile. I will never forget her and I wish there were more selfless people like her in the world. God bless, my friend.
by J. Amos, Laindon, Essex, England
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Cancer can often be a journey of awakening and self realization. An apparent predator called ‘cancer’ wants to take force and possession of physicality – One initially responds, reacts with sheer anger and terror; subjected by and to the frightening ‘C’ word…… The journey begins…..
Family reactions and their terror is often the most difficult to deal with; nobody really wants to understand or deal with the possibility of death!! Doctors and nurses are very kind; they are our hope, our solution our dependency upon living.
Irene always believed that there was ALWAYS a positive in EVERY negative – How can there ever be a positive when a human is dancing with death? ….the awakening journey begins; life now takes on a completely different meaning. Things that we were once worried about cease to exist! Life is now being threatened in its most detrimental force – something needs to balance out this force. Spiritual hope comes into place; this spiritual hope brings with it ‘the journey of reality’ i.e. possessions cease to matter; they no longer hold the power of gravity that give a sense of life. Instead now it is the things that can no longer be touched or seen with the naked eye that truly matter; they are seen and touched with the human heart.. The evening sunset, the due on the rose, the kind smile from a passer by, the look of love in the eyes of close family members; all of these things Irene noticed more so in her final years, showing how meanings of what really matter change.
The journey of cancer is a journey of self courage; a journey of inner determination, which Irene saw through to her final breath. After all we ALL die in the end. The journey of cancer helps to enlighten the soul, the spirit dances whilst the heart opens to its real intention, its realization of ‘why are we here’ – why where we born? The answer I believe is just to love and to be loved in its simplest and purest form…
by D.F. London, England
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In Loving memory of Irene Carol Yarrow, a truly inspirational patient
19th Feb 1947 - 9th March 2012
